馮唐曾說,“成功沒有捷徑,但需要一些好習慣。”的確,如果將人的各種命運分解,試圖從中找出一些規律的話,那麼良好的習慣,敢於抓住機遇的勇氣是比天賦更為重要的東西。
曾被美國《時代》週刊稱為“25位最有影響力的美國人之一”的柯維先生,也就是《高效能人士的7個習慣》的作者,曾專門針對孩子寫過另外兩本著名的書:《The 7 Habits of Happy Kids》和《The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens》。美國學校把它歸納為孩子成長的“7棵習慣樹”。
新學期來了,陪孩子一起慢慢養成這些好習慣吧!
1
Be proactive - You're in charge
積極主動,我的人生我負責
I am a responsible person. I take initiative. I choose my actions, attitudes and moods. I do not blame others for my wrong actions. I do the right thing without being asked, even when no one is looking.
我對自己負責,做事積極主動。我能管理好自己的行為、態度和情緒。我做了錯事不推卸責任。君子慎獨,哪怕沒有人監督,我也會努力自覺地去做正確的事情。
2
Begin with the end in mind - Have a plan
有目標,有計劃
I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am an important part of my classroom and contribute to my school's mission and vision. I look ways to be a good citizen.
做事前我會制定計劃、確定目標。我會做很多有意義、有積極影響力的事。我是班級裡的重要一員,為學校事務貢獻自己的力量。我希望成為一個好公民。
3
Put first things first - Work first, then play
做事分主次,先工作,後娛樂
I spend my time on things that are most important. This means I say no to things I know I should not do. I set priorities, make a schedule, and follow my plan. I am disciplined and organized.
我會把時間花在最重要的事情上。勇於向不該做的事兒說不。我制定優先順序,做日程表,然後按計劃推進。我自律同時做事有條理。
4
Think win-win - Everyone can win
有雙贏意識
I balance courage for getting what I want with consideration for what others want. I make deposits in others' Emotional Bank Accounts. When conflicts arise, I look for third alternatives.
我勇於爭取自己想要的,但是我同時也會考慮別人的需求。我在別人的“情感銀行”賬號裡放下我的存款(維繫情感)。有矛盾的時候,我尋求能平衡彼此需求的解決方案。
5
Seek first to understand, then to be understood
先去理解別人,再求被人理解
I listen to other people's ideas and feelings. I try to see things from their viewpoints. I listen to others without interrupting. I am confident in voicing my ideas. I look people in the eyes when talking.
我仔細聆聽別人的想法和感受,努力從他人角度去理解問題,也不會打斷別人的話。我可以自信表達自己的觀點,與人交流時會直視對方的眼睛。
6
Synergize - Together is better
協同-合作會更好
I value other people's strengths and learn from them. I get along well with others, even people who are different than me. I work well in groups.I seek out other people's ideas to solve problems because I know that by teaming with others we can create better solutions than anyone of us can alone. I am humble.
我明白別人身上閃光點的價值並向他們學習。即便是和我很不一樣的人,我也能愉快地和他們相處。我很擅長團隊合作,也很善於聽取他人的建議,因為我知道與單打獨鬥相比,團隊合作能帶來更好的解決方案。我保持謙遜。
7
Sharpen the saw - Balance feels best
磨刀不誤砍柴工,平衡為上
I take care of my body eating right, exercising and getting sleep. I spend time with family and friends. I learn in lots of ways and lots of places, not just at school. I find meaningful ways to help others.
我關注飲食健康,鍛鍊身體,保證睡眠。我常常陪伴家人和朋友。對我來說,學習的方法和場所都很多-絕不止於學校。我用有意義的方式去幫助別人。
“給孩子金山銀山,不如給孩子一個好習慣。”在孩子的幼年時期,讓孩子養成一些好習慣,對他的成長甚至一生都會產生重要影響。
幫助孩子培養好習慣的最佳方法就是給他們做榜樣哦~在生活中,爸爸媽媽要以身作則,相信寶貝們也能積極效仿的!同樣,這些習慣對我們家長也很適用,引導幫助孩子的同時,讓我們也一起來提升吧!